Long Distance Best Friends (9284 views)
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discongeniality posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:23:54 pm» quote
- arent you going in august
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gackandcheese posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:25:00 pm» quote
- a real best friend would understand that
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white_trash posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:25:10 pm» quote
- SHE DELETED YOU FROM MYSPACE?!
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brooklyn_ael posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:25:43 pm» quote
- god damn! My best friend lives in LA....I need to call her actually.
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discongeniality posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:26:20 pm» quote
- give it a few days. true, a real best friend would understand that.
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gackandcheese posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:27:14 pm» quote
- sometimes people grow apart.
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brooklyn_ael posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:27:17 pm» quote
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Aw honey :(
She's probably just disappointed that you're not coming so she's taking it out on you. I'd wager that she'll come around.
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KrookedEdge posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:27:56 pm» quote
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white_trash posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:25:10 pm
SHE DELETED YOU FROM MYSPACE?!
OH.
MY.
GOD.
::jerk off hand motion::
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white_trash posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:28:01 pm» quote
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Sorry.
I still don't understand girls.
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roxylola posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:28:07 pm» quote
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gackandcheese posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:27:14 pm
sometimes people grow apart.
I've been feeling this way for a while. We lead to separate lives. Since I've gotten sober, things have changed a lot. She doesn't seem to care about my progress.
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Colonial Wburg posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:30:42 pm» quote
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discongeniality posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:32:14 pm» quote
- "breaking up with" a friend is never not a ridiculously overdramatic bs thing to do, unless you actually did something terrible to her.
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selena posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:32:18 pm» quote
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it sounds like she is a controlling and manipulative bitch, but also she is probably super disappointed that you can't make it out there but what can you do! you have no $$$! some people express themselves in very immature/childish manners.
also if she doesn't support your sobriety then that's a problem.
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Colonial Wburg posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:33:19 pm» quote
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"This.. really fucking hurts."
AHAHHAHA THAT ELIPSE!
This... ::zoom in:: really hurts.
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professor$1.50 posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:33:57 pm» quote
- i am going through some really similar shit. except nobody's breaking up with anyone. it's really fucking awkward and i have no idea why she's not supporting my sobriety when i still get wilder than all her other friends.
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discongeniality posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:35:00 pm» quote
- because it makes her feel uncomfortable about her own drinking, maybe
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roxylola posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:35:38 pm» quote
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I just got 2 jobs and I'm finally going to be able to pay off my debt and save money to travel. I'm going to be working 6 - 7 days a week. And I told her I'd come in September or October but she wasn't having it.
She supports my sobriety, she just doesn't care. I tell her I'm 7 months sober and she says, "Oh okay." It's so weird.
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discongeniality posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:36:16 pm» quote
- like when one friend gets awkward when another friend loses weight or gets into a serious relationship. i think its a weird type of feeling abandoned.
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selena posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:43:25 pm» quote
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well roxy maybe she doesn't know what to say about your sobriety - i mean when i went through my stints on the wagon, my friends (who are probably somewhat older and possibly more mature and have seen me go through some serious shit while drinking) were very positive about it, though some people were like "you're not an alcoholic, you're just bored"
anyway it could be she just doesn't know how to say "GOOD JOB, keep it up, i'm here for you"
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noddemix posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:43:35 pm» quote
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white_trash posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:28:01 pm
Sorry.
I still don't understand girls.
i don't think it's a girl thing as much as a shitty thing
anyway this is silly
i can't imagine a sane person actually being angry over this. upset, yeah, but not angry at you.
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professor$1.50 posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:44:51 pm» quote
- yeah, genie, you're on to something there. i will always love her but this emotional withdrawal shit is injurious as hell. i worry she thinks i'm boring now that i've stopped "acting out" by trying to kill myself on the daily. little does she know i've become a serial killer instead!
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roxylola posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:46:38 pm» quote
- She recently went through a really shitty situation (getting pregnant) and I didn't know what to do. I couldn't do much because I wasn't in Seattle to help her through it. I wasn't around over the weekend and she was angry with me for not picking up my phone. It's so petty. This is so fucking stupid.
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discongeniality posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:47:01 pm» quote
- its passive-aggressive and punishing, even if she doesnt realize she's doing it. maybe if there is a diplomatic way to point it out....
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selena posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:48:20 pm» quote
- whoah well wait, getting pregnant is a huuuuuge deal. TMI but i wrote off my best friend of 16 years for a good six or seven months (that hurt so badly too) because i had "a procedure" and she didn't know what to say or do, but her grandmother (who'd raised her) had also just passed. it took the death of a mutual friend to bring us back together.
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discongeniality posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:49:37 pm» quote
- because thats what is called non-therapeutic communication skills. its namecalling.
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discongeniality posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:50:09 pm» quote
- although since youre dealing with a friend and not a psych patient, give it some time as maybe she got pissed because she knows youre right.
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selena posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:51:53 pm» quote
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well that's as much as you can do from here. call her, tell her you're there for her, blah blah. what she's doing is probably not just bc you're not going to make it out there now but also from some residual hurt or whatever that she hasn't told you about. give her a few days, give her a call, tell her you love her, miss her, that you're probably going to try and get to seattle in the fall, that she's more than welcome to visit you, etc etc.
sometimes it just takes a few days of sulking before someone realizes they're being overly reactionary
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professor$1.50 posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:53:19 pm» quote
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discongeniality posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:49:37 pm
because thats what is called non-therapeutic communication skills. its namecalling.
absolutely correct. that is inefficient communication.
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Colonial Wburg posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:53:26 pm» quote
- Send her this thread.
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Colonial Wburg posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:53:53 pm» quote
- Or at least the part where you tell a bunch of strangers on a public messageboard about her abortion.
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discongeniality posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:54:51 pm» quote
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Colonial Wburg posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:53:53 pm
Or at least the part where you tell a bunch of strangers on a public messageboard about her abortion.
gjaklsd;
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discongeniality posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 4:00:25 pm» quote
- so you still were in contact with her after she had the abortion? no one can expect you to know what to say, but i mean, its not like you stopped talking to her because of not knowing what to say? thats not something to stop being friends over :(
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discongeniality posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 4:02:57 pm» quote
- too late how
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kss214 posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 4:09:05 pm» quote
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roxylola posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 4:04:13 pm
Like, it was 4am my time and 1am Seattle time and I knew she would be sleeping. And I didn't call her the next day because I was working. THIS IS SO STUPID!
this is honestly the best situation for text messages.
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sweetwillis posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 4:10:56 pm» quote
- my bf lives in philly and would never be pissed i couldnt come to her. why cant she come to bk why is it all on u?
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Colonial Wburg posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 4:13:20 pm» quote
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roxylola posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 4:04:13 pm
THIS IS SO STUPID!
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aroundthewayboy posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 4:14:53 pm» quote
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if any of my friends ever wrote about my abortion on a messageboard, i would:
1) totes de-myspace them & $tuFF
2) rejoice in the realization that i'm not fat, i'm just pregnant
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roxylola posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 4:14:56 pm» quote
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sweetwillis posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 4:10:56 pm
my bf lives in philly and would never be pissed i couldnt come to her. why cant she come to bk why is it all on u?
She came to visit last time, which was last summer. And she had the most miserable time ever because I was at the height of my alcoholism.
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sweetwillis posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 4:19:03 pm» quote
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well if there is nothing you can do that is i. i would be a little annoyed if after a year my friend could not save the money to see me.
just let her cool down and try to talk to her later.
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discongeniality posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 4:20:05 pm» quote
- sometimes it ends up not being possible to have money to travel.
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Girlfoundhere posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 4:20:21 pm» quote
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my best friend just told me she couldnt come visit me in august as planned because shes too broke (recently laid off out of nowhere.)
My response?.....I bought her ticket for her. Because I love her and know she's having a hard time. But if I hadn't been able to do that I would NEVER have berated her or been mad at her for not coming (and we havent seen eachother in almost 2 years! although we talk every day) I treat her like I would treat my sister.
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aroundthewayboy posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 4:26:57 pm» quote
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it's hard to end friendships.
but sometimes it needs to happen.
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Colonial Wburg posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 4:28:04 pm» quote
- Ahahahaha
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aroundthewayboy posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 4:28:45 pm» quote
- haha "i am totally broke, i can barely even afford bar masa any more"
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selena posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 4:40:37 pm» quote
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for the most part, yes, i don't like to cook for just myself. it's depressing and lonely. when i lived with my then-bf i'd cook pretty much every night.
if i do eat at home it's like, a can of soup, but lately i've been into making a lot of soba or udon or tofu dishes with fresh vegetables and stuff.
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9 y.o. virgin posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 5:22:20 pm» quote
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the only experience I have with this is go on and let the crazy ones drift away. it hurts, but it's a blessing. friends who can't support your sobriety are clearly too caught up in their own shit to realize it's not about them
I only lost a couple friends after I got sober, but my life is certainly better without them
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sweetwillis posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 5:28:11 pm» quote
- yeah even though i did not stay sober i still got rid of some bad eggs that were not interested in what was best for me. its hard but it all works out.
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jordivision posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 7:12:11 pm» quote
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from the gawker messages about this thread:
" It was exactly like listening to Paris Hilton and Jeff Spicoli discuss Judith Butler."
amazing
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lila_engel posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 7:14:49 pm» quote
- gawker's obsession with williamsboard creeps me out. because the gawker media sites are, essentially, MESSAGEBOARDS THEMSELVES. jaysus.
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jordivision posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 7:15:36 pm» quote
- people love making fun of hipsters. if they only knew that they weren't real anymore.
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lila_engel posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 7:17:49 pm» quote
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because the people who read gawker are toby keith lovin' redstaters?
el oh el
this anti-hipster thing is as embarrassing and over-simplified as when my mom says she "can't stand that 'rap crap'" every time hip hop comes on the radio
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Transmigrant posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 7:21:57 pm» quote
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roxylola posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 3:35:38 pm
She supports my sobriety, she just doesn't care. I tell her I'm 7 months sober and she says, "Oh okay." It's so weird.
Roxy. You know I love you and everything. This is just one aspect of you that I don't understand. I haven't done anything other than smoke pot in my life and the last two times were 2 years ago and in 9th grade, respectively. When someone offers me a joint and I tell them I don't smoke they usually say "Oh. Okay." And that's fine by me. You should be personally happy yourself about your decision (which I know you are). Everything else is just background.
That said- Gawkers obsession with the board is that people on the board keep submitting links (Selena. Eliz. I'm looking at you --but not because of this thread--).
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9 y.o. virgin posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 7:28:28 pm» quote
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white_trash posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 7:29:15 pm» quote
- loool
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lila_engel posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 7:32:44 pm» quote
- HAHAHAHAHA. "pilled fucking goiter holder" is some of your finest work, catherine.
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real_original posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 7:33:25 pm» quote
- hahahahhahahahaha
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Transmigrant posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 7:33:45 pm» quote
- hahahahahah
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white_trash posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 7:34:22 pm» quote
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white_trash posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 7:34:50 pm» quote
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I_did_not_read_the_thread posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 7:37:37 pm» quote
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real_original posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 7:38:49 pm» quote
- adkadfadfakfj
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eliz posted this on July 17th, 2008 @ 9:01:30 pm» quote
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i didnt submit this, i just read it. also holy LOL if i were that girl had had an abortion i'd find the money to fly to bklyn to throttle whoever posted it
also the barista referenced in the comments of the gawker post is the one who most often submits threads to gawker ;)
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notyou posted this on July 18th, 2008 @ 12:34:54 am» quote
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the gawker comments were funny until someone admitted to having dating pcd and i was like D:
" chatnoir at 08:35 PM on 07/17/08
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i dated a barista/career AA member who was constantly on williamsboard. his crowning achievement was creating a membership for the aborted fetus of a girl he disliked. "
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nocleftlip posted this on July 18th, 2008 @ 1:20:37 am» quote
- i read on gawker that this thread is about the unborn dead
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professor$1.50 posted this on July 18th, 2008 @ 1:38:36 am» quote
- also roxy you're not factoring in that her hormone levels are all outta whack right now. it's just not a good time to Tell Her Like It Is. you are fighting forces greater than logic.
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666 SKULLS posted this on July 18th, 2008 @ 1:47:55 am» quote
- Bring back JERICHO!
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Colonial Wburg posted this on July 18th, 2008 @ 8:58:40 am» quote
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NoWAY posted this on July 18th, 2008 @ 4:26:08 am
its prob col wburg who sent it
Nope. Don't read gawker!
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aroundthewayboy posted this on July 18th, 2008 @ 9:39:00 am» quote
- gawker radically changed in the past couple years. it used to be bitchy media insiders, now it's conservative middle american losers, and the stories they're interested in.
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